But that’s okay!
Not being liked by everyone I met was something that I struggled with for literally years. I’d get myself in to uncomfortable situations because I didn’t want to say no to things out of fear that it would have a negative effect on the way in which people then perceived me. I used to try exceptionally hard to please everyone and this would often extinguish my own interests or tastes in order to fit in and be liked. As I grew out of my teenage years and got older, I became way more comfortable with the person I was, and decided to carve my own way instead of trying to fit in to other people’s ideals.
From being very little, my quirks have always been celebrated. My personal interests and hobbies, music taste and passions were sometimes different from others, but my mum has always raised me to fuel those interests and encouraged my desires. I now know how important it is to have hobbies and interests that make you, you.
I think a range of things encouraged my strength to be the person I am now. But after years of self-reflection, admittedly, at times over criticism towards myself and a whole lotta soul searching, I’ve finally found the person I am, and want to continue to be. I am completely, unapologetically, my authentic self; however, still constantly considering how to be the best version of me.
I am pretty content in the person I am, and it does not bother me in the slightest that not everyone will like me, because that’s only natural, we’re only human and you can’t be everyone’s cup of tea! As long as you know you are the kindest version of you, that’s all that matters, and usually, if someone doesn’t like you, it’s their loss and not yours.
I wish I’d have known not to be so bothered years ago, as I think back at the time wasted trying to fit in; but as Dr Seuss said, why try to fit in, when you were born to stand out?
Lots of Love, Lily.